Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Losing and Gaining

My family suffered a tragic loss yesterday. My brother-in-law was killed in an accident at work. He was really a good person and will be terribly missed by everyone who knew him. He and my sister have two gorgeous twin girls who are five years old.

Despite something that seems so unfair about all of this, I have to think there are still miracles in this world. I got proof not long after the news of my brother-in-law's death. Some friends of ours had a baby—well, not a baby. Two babies. Two beautiful twin girls.

There's some kind of harmony in this. In all the chaos of this untimely death, there's a birth. There's new life. Two new lives that echo the two beautiful lives of my twin nieces who have just lost their daddy.

There's not a lot of comfort to be found in my brother-in-law's death, but the news of these babies warms my heart just enough.


  1. I am sorry to hear about your brother-in-law. I'll pray for his family.

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  3. I'm so sorry to hear about the passing of your brother-in-law. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your sister and their twin daughters.

  4. There aren't words in the English language to describe what one person feels for another when grieving. There are a million and one unhelpful things people say at funerals - 'It was God's will' or 'He's in a better place now' or 'You can always have another baby/husband/father,' but every time someone says something like that I kind of want to disappear.

    I can't say I know exactly how you feel, because no one does exactly. But I can sort of guess how you might be feeling, because in my town over the last year, we've lost eleven teenagers and young adults to suicide, accidents, and disease. We all know the pain of grief, but from this we all are learning to love everyone longer, stronger, and harder. It's amazing what God is doing with this tragedy, and I know that it will be amazing what God will do with yours.

    All I can say is that, even though you don't know me, I'm praying for you, and God is still there, still passionately loving you.

    We're all in the same boat. But God is our Captain, and we can trust Him to bring us through the storm.



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