Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Sex and God and Religion and Stuff

I get really irritated with people blaming religion for things. I've read it in several places recently—blog posts, articles, Tweets. Religion does this or that to people. Religion keeps people repressed in all sorts of ways. Religion is awful, essentially, and screws people up.

Here's the difference: Religion may do those things, but God doesn't.

Religion was created by man. Religion is the manner in which you worship or believe, and it's a set of rules and traditions. It's an earthly system created by fallen people. Of course it's going to have flaws. We're human. And most of us are lousy ones, at that. When you put the religion up on a pedestal—religion and the people who are in charge of it—you're going to be disappointed.

Humans make mistakes. Humans misinterpret things. Humans look out for their own best interest sometimes, even when they're supposed to be looking out for others. It's how we are. It's awful.

One thing that I read recently said that people are sexually repressed because of religion. I'll bet that's true for a lot of people.

But you know what? That's not on God.

Have you ever read Song of Songs in the Bible? It's a whole book about how awesome sex is! It's a married couple talking back and forth about sex. What they like about the other's body, how they long for each other when they're apart, how awesome sex is when they're together.

God invented sex. It's intended to be fun and awesome.

But humans have a tendency to go overboard. I mean, even Solomon (who wrote Song of Songs and was the wisest man who ever lived) had, like, 700 wives or something. And 300 concubines.

That was not God's intention. That totally came from a dude's brain.

So humans went to the other extreme. Some, like the Shakers, wouldn't allow men and women—even husbands and wives!—to sit next to each other. Or sleep in the same bed. Or procreate. For reals.

That was not God's intention, either. I'm not sure who thought that was a good idea. That's why there are only three remaining Shakers. Three.

When you're not sure what to think about Christianity, go to the source—the Bible. God. Don't take someone's word for it. Don't rely on this denomination or that to tell you what's up, since they all have different ideas and (man-made) rules set in place. Go straight to The Book and see what it says. I think you'll be surprised.

And, actually, you may be most surprised by the freedom it has for you. Not oppression.


  1. Such a great post!!

    I love the Song of Songs. It is an amazing portrait of what sex in the proper, God-given circumstances can be like. (Wonderful, and fabulous, and exciting for BOTH the husband and wife!)

    Thank you for the reminder of turning to God for answers, instead of turning to humans for rules.

  2. Thanks for a great post! I think people who make negative comments about Christianity are not looking at the right source and talking out of ignorance!

  3. "This was not God's intention. That totally came from a dude's brain." This made me snicker :-). Soooo true!

    Great post on a great subject :-).

    - m

  4. Quite true. Man will always let you down--God will not. The Bible is such a wonderful glimpse of who God is. It boggles the mind and soothes the soul!

  5. Very well said!! Amen, Sister!

  6. Hey, great post! I am so on board with this and have "preached" the same thing! Thanks for sharing :) I stumbled across your blog because you commented on Tyler Rowan's post and when I went to comment I saw that 'Rachel' had already commented. I read it and was like, "I didn't write that..." lol so I guess there's two of us. Common name, I know. Looking forward to reading more of your posts!

  7. Can I get an Amen??
    I really want to shout that out in church one day but am not there yet ;)
    Religion is like any other man made thing, flawed. Each of us can read the same sentance and depending on our perspective we can interpret it differently.
    I agree with accessing the Bible and praying for God's truth. Relationship with God is my choice, not religion.

  8. Rachel, an old friend used to say, "we don't have a religion, we have a romance." 'Nuf said. :)

  9. Love it! As usual straight to the point and no going around your elbow to get to your nose, hehe! I enjoyed the book Son of Songs, it is quite informative about sex in marriage & what its supposed to be versus what we think the bible says its supposed to be. Thanks for helping others see that as well!

  10. I agree with this post on so many different levels. There are so many things that people combine religion with god. While I support religion too, religion has flaws... god does not.

  11. We think the same

    I have left churches before, b/c they believe in the punishing and discipline of God.

    I just shake my head.

  12. Thanks for a post that makes us think. Religion is not about our God. I don't believe He ever had anything like that in mind of us. It's His love and what He did and still does to give us that love that makes me want to live for Him, not rules and laws. Congrats on the 13!

  13. that's part of the reason I'm not "religious"

    my grandparents didn't share a bed. my cousin was 26 dating a 16 year old because the church said it was ok for him to do that. another relative's church doesn't allow dancing. are we living in the movie "footloose" ??

    I find it so very facinating too...in a sociological sense.

    Reading about everyones interpretation to God's will. I just read an article in Family Circle ( I think it was that magazine) exploring how women express their faith thru how they dress. From nuns, to conservative christians, orthodox jews, and muslims....

    My hunny calls the Bible "Basic Instructions before Leaving Earth". I think people take the bible much to literally. It was written by man, after all.

    I believe as long as we're kind, compassionate, good, and try to do good for others (treat others as you want to be treated) we're living as we should - God will be proud.

    I'm not married and I have a son. I live with my boyfriend. So many "friends" of ours have turned their noses down on us for that.

    I think much of the way people live has a lot to do with the restrictions/opinions society and our family puts on us.

    I believe in God, but I don't believe I have to go to church to talk to him - I don't believe I have to speak thru a priest to have a conversation with him (I was raised catholic - I consider myself a nonpracticing catholic...yeah contradiction).

    Still, I believe in God, but I don't necessarily believe in Religion.

    Compelling post

    Happy Wednesday! :D


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