Thursday, April 7, 2011

The Balancing Act

It seems like I can't be good at everything all at once.

I'm not talking about my madd triple threat skillz. Those are solid. Holla!

This is more about my different roles in life. Christian. Wife. Mom. Other. Four categories (one hilariously vague), and I can't balance all of them effectively.

Right now, I am kicking butt at the household stuff. Stuff I typically ignore for long periods of time. I'm doing laundry daily (and putting it away, thankyouverymuch). I cleaned out my son's closet the other day because it was bugging me. If I didn't know any better, I'd think I was pregnant and nesting.

However, when I was pregnant with my son, I did no nesting. For reals. So there goes that theory.

But even though I'm a not-so-desperate housewife right now, my faith feels junky. I'm not spending enough time with God or enough time in the Word. It feels terrible, but I can't seem to get it going. 

What is up

So instead of giving advice, I need advice. What do you do when you find yourself in this kind of season? How do get things back into balance? Help!


  1. First, you need to understand that we ALL go through this phase! Second, any time you spend in the Word is going to help. The last thing Satan wants is for us to read about Our Great God and the eternal reward that is promised to us.

    With that being said, how about changing up your routine? Instead of just reading your Bible or books, how about listening to them? Get a great version of the Bible that is dramatized. Reid can listen too - and would probably enjoy it.

    Give yourself permission to not do the household chores for a day. Yeah, the house will look a little worn, but a day out may help clear the clutter in your head.

    I'll be praying for you, Rach!

  2. Don't ever feel bad about experiencing phases like this. There is a time to be "Mary" and a time to be "Martha". You are in a "Martha" moment and it will pass. And as "ME" said above, any time you spend in the Word is going to help. Just think of all the meditating time you have while cleaning! I work full-time and am a solo mum. When I get home all I want to do is spend time in the Word, but I have to wait. I fit time in during the day for Word time. I have also had to get used to a house that has a "lived in" look due to my schedule and also health issues. Go with the flow but don't let the enemy distract you from the Word by your washing. I agree with "ME" that a day without any housework would be a good thing. It will still be there tomorrow, even if there is a little more. Much love, Paula xo

  3. I know where you are coming from. My intentions are there but sometimes get lost with distractions. And those distractions being laundry, cleaning and such.

    I have a friend that has given me suggestions and some great ones at that. She has a very structured and disciplined quiet time.

    I am taking her advice and finding my own groove. But right now, for me, having her as my accountability partner is helping. It is so easy to hit the snooze until I REALLY need to get up. She will text me at the time I want/need to get up. Kinda giving me the feeling of my mom standing over me, tapping her feet and staring, waiting for me to get up.

    Set a plan that you want to follow. How much time you want to spend and IF you need to get up earlier. If you, like me, need that friend giving you help just to get you going, find someone that wants to see you grow as much as you desire and ask for a little help to get you going.

    Proverbs 27:17
    As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

    Angie C.

  4. It's all about your own perception. If we are aware we know when we're not in the Word enough. On the days when I can't take time in the Word on paper it's around me via my Christian radio station, on CD, online sermons etc.
    When you're cleaning the house bring Jesus with you (I'm sure you do already) but acknowledge it, think and reflect upon Bible learnings which teach us to do all things as if we're doing it for God.

    Personally with my disabilities I don't always have the ability to read so I've become creative...

  5. I agree with ME and was actually going to suggest the same. You could be listening to the Word while you're folding and putting away laundry. Or praying. I know my hubby absolutely LOVES listening to the Word, and it really does help. It even influences the atmosphere of the home!

    Many times in order to find my own balance, I have to shut out the world for a season. I think it's an introverted thing...

  6. I go through times like this often. You know what's great about this is that you realized something's off! Just knowing this will help you focus a little more on Jesus.

    What do I do? I listen to praise and worship music. The music sends me to a place like nothing else. Turn it on in the car, while cleaning etc.

  7. I agree with Julie (through whose blog I just discovered yours -- good stuff!). Also, I have just started reading The Papa Prayer, which I think will make a difference for me in this area.

  8. Life ebbs and flows...God knows this! But I know in my case, I feel so much better if I make time for God. Everything else will fall in to place!

  9. I just wanted to say that I just found your blog, and I am so thankful for it. These are the very things I have struggled with and always been afraid to voice thinking there must be something wrong with me. I still haven't really had time to process it all but thank you, thank you, thank you for your honesty.


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