Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Making a List

If you read my guest post at Eternal Lizdom yesterday, you'd know that my great aunt died. I was out of town for her funeral. But I'm home now.

And I'm thinking about funerals. Naturally.

I'm thinking about whether I'll be young or old. Who'll be at my funeral? What they'll say about me? Will people cry? Will my darling husband have to deal with planning everything? Or my precious son? What can I do to make it easier?

A-ha! A list!

  • I want a navy blue casket. My grandpa had one and it was really pretty. No pictures on the inside or anything.
  • I want my funeral to be like a celebration. Guess what? I'm going to be partying in Heaven, so I totally give you permission to party here.
  • No depressing organ music. I want a rousing rendition of "I'll Fly Away," like it is on the O Brother, Where Art Thou? soundtrack. Then Coldplay's "Green Eyes," even though that'll make my husband cry. But it'll be a sweet cry. And maybe that David Crowder song, "How He Loves." That's a great one.
  • Everyone should wear green, since that's my favorite color.
  • Maybe some of my friends from the drama ministry could perform something I wrote. Something particularly poignant and profound. Provided I've written anything poignant and profound by the time my funeral rolls around. 
  • And I want the pastor, whoever it is at that point, to use it as an opportunity to share Christ with the people in attendance. 
Some people are superstitious and say it's unlucky to talk about your funeral. Like it'll happen sooner. God's got a timeline, and this blog post isn't going to change that. And, honestly, the funeral's not a big deal. It is for the people who need closure and who need to mourn, but I'm not going to be there. It's like a wedding being the big deal. It's one day; it's not the marriage. It just marks the beginning. A funeral is one day; it's not the whole of eternity. It just marks the beginning. 

Anyway, I think funerals are interesting. Am I the only morbid person who thinks about this stuff?


  1. Love this! You have such a positive outlook. I don't like talking about funerals myself, but only because they make me tear up a little. My husband comes from a family where for generations they've owned their own funeral business. He was the first one to say 'no thanks' and walk away from being a part of the business. My in-laws are very compassionate people, which makes them a great fit for their business. Anyway, I'm totally rambling...sorry!

    I should really consider how I'd want my funeral to go as well.

    Thanks for the reminder that death isn't necessarily a bad thing, just a sad thing for those left behind.


  2. I think lots of people think about it, just not many talk about it. I love the everybody dressing in green part.That's a great idea. My dad's funeral was the only one I've ever been at where we laughed. It was amazing. So much depends upon the person (pastor, whoever) officiating the event.

  3. tony's armchairMay 4, 2011 at 8:37 AM

    I must say everytime I think about a funeral I think about the verse in Matthew 5:3 "Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Had a preacher friend change my view of that verse, we are blessed because we mourn-we were so lucky on this Earth to have loved and been loved by someone that we are blessed. Jesus goes on to say that we will be comforted, but to think about that first part that we were so blessed to have someone that cared for us so much on this Earth. What a way to think about a funeral and that is why mine for sure will be a celebration because i want people to think about God's love we have on this Earth and that we are blessed to be able to take part in it.

  4. The Oh Brother choice is such a good one! I may borrow it, when the time comes.

    Every time someone dies on TV, I tell my family exactly what I want. I'm already irritated because you just KNOW they won't listen. Silly humans.

  5. I think as Christians we are raised and taught not to fear death, so naturally we shouldn't be afraid or weirded out about talking about them. I have made a list, a mental one, talked to my mother about it, my SO, and made sure that everyone knows if it happens sooner rather than later that my children are given an opportunity to know me each and every day.

    No you are not morbid, not at all!

  6. LOVE that David Crowder song! Not morbid - realistic. I think the people who fear talking about it are the ones who aren't sure what's going to happen when they die. If you know, why not plan?

  7. Not morbid. I make the same kind of lists, although usually they're about where to find the key to the safety deposit box, and what Mr should do about our budget once I've kicked the bucket.

    We all have our interests. Mine just happen to be money-related.

  8. Hi Rachel. You should add to your list that someone should do a final positive rip roaring gospel post in your honour, giving God all the glory for your life. God bless, Tracy

  9. @Missy As long as all jokes are pre-approved by me. lol

  10. Great music choice! I can't say that I've ever thought about my funeral, but I will be thinking about it now. ;)

    My favorite color is green, too. :)

  11. No, you are not morbid at all. I am fascinated with funerals, cemeteries, and the entire "funeral services" industry. In fact, one of my now favorite movies is a Japanese film called "Departures" (you can watch it instantly on Netflix, Japanese w/ subtitles, won Oscar for Best Foreign Film, EXCELLENT movie!) and one of my now favorite blogs is "Confessions of a Funeral Director",

    That said, I've never given much thought to my own funeral. I don't know why...maybe because I'm not convinced that I'll go before Jesus returns? Or maybe because I feel I have too many years left to be thinking about such things? That my purpose is not fulfilled? I don't know. But now you've got me thinking about it!


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