Friday, July 1, 2011

Friendly Friday: Tiersa Buckley

Today's Friendly Friday post comes from Tiersa Buckley, a blogger over at ChristianDating.org

No, I don't use a dating site. I'm happily married, thankyouverymuch.

I did use them at one point, though, and for those of you who are still single and want to try online dating, Tiersa's blog can help you figure out which dating sites are the best. She's got reviews and advice for dating sites, and it's specifically geared toward Christians. Neat!

So check out her personal dating story here, and then head over to her blog to get some advice of your own!

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 My Rocky Road to Love

In the past year, I have learned humility and a respect for what God has given me. However, it’s sometimes another matter to teach your head and your heart to agree to disagree.  I’ve had my fair share of disappointments in life and was not looking for any additional stress. At one time in my life, dating had been considered to be hard work that I did not want to take on. I had not been with anyone since my divorce from a rather abusive relationship and the death of my nephew.

One day, after a particularly rough week in my life (ie: my car breaking down and fighting with my now ex-husband), I made a trip to my local grocery store.  I was busy schlepping my items to the front of the store when I accidentally bumped into a gentleman coming around the corner of another isle.  My cart hit his grocery basket and all of his items scattered on the floor. 

I apologized profusely, and when I bent down to help him put things back in his basket, I noticed he had the most beautiful and thoughtful look on his face as our eyes locked.  It was almost as if he wasn’t bothered at all that I had just spilled his groceries everywhere.  He smiled at me, reassured me that it was no problem at all, and simply said, “I was waiting all day for a beautiful lady to try to steal my rocky road ice cream." 

I was at a loss for words as I blushed and gently returned the items to his basket.  I smiled at him and remembered thinking that he seemed so loving and understanding. These were all the relationship traits that I had longed for in my life but had been denied.  I was in such a hurry to pick up my son from school that I didn’t have time to get any more information about this gorgeous man who I had so violently crashed into. 

About two months after that, a friend suggested I use an online Christian dating site to meet someone special.  At first, I balked at the idea because I didn’t want to be disappointed when I filled out my profile and received no quality matches.  I didn’t foresee someone who wanted to spend time with a depressed divorcee with such a crappy outlook on life.

I gave it some thought. I’d grown tired of spending my weekends by myself, so I decided to give it a try.  I signed up for a free trial and awaited my first set of e-mail matches.  I wasn’t expecting much, since I had always heard of things going wrong and not many success stories in the way of Internet dating.  I thought at the very least it would add some adventure to my life.  

I was perusing the profiles of the men in my area when a particular photo caught my eye.  The man seemed familiar somehow, so I clicked on his bio to get more information. My jaw dropped when I realized it was the same man who I so rudely bumped into at my local grocery store two months prior!  I immediately sent him an introduction e-mail saying that I didn’t know if he remembered me, but I was the woman who tried to steal his ice cream at the grocery store by spilling his groceries, and would he still want to share his Rocky Road with a beautiful lady?

It didn’t take long for me to receive an emphatic reply stating “Let’s get together; I have two spoons at the ready!”

After exchanging a couple of e-mails and chatting online, we decided to meet at a coffee shop.  We connected immediately. We found that we had so many things in common, including our love for Rocky Road ice cream!  It was almost as if fate had made my cart take on a life of its own that day in the store. 

We've now been married for eight wonderful years and I am happier than I’ve ever been.  Sometimes God does work miracles, as I found my greatest love at the end of my Rocky Road.

3 comments:

  1. Yay, eight years! My husband and I are at 11, the new baby years were tough. I love rocky road, too! New follower here.

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  2. Congratulations Melissa! The first years are always tough and even though the hot honeymoon phase ends, you still need to work on marriage by building up the bricks of respect.

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  3. I also try dating sites because it really works.
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