Sometimes I wish I were single.
Not because I don't love my husband, of course. I wouldn't trade him for anything. But sometimes I miss the things I could do when I was single. Partying all night! Sleeping all day!
Well, no. Not really. I didn't do those things. I'm so boring.
What I miss the most is the ability to spend enough time with my girlfriends to really form deep friendships. It was nothing to go out on a weeknight and get coffee or see a movie. On a weeknight! We didn't have husbands we needed to spend time with or children we needed to care for. My girls and I could spend unlimited time together—I got to know them, they got to know me, and we formed deep bonds of friendship.
It's really hard to make those connections now. We moved from Ohio to Indiana a few months after my husband and I were married, and I had to find new friendships here in the Hoosier State. It's not that I don't have any friends; I do. It just feels like I can't spend the time required to build deep, lasting friendships. Spending one-on-one time with a girlfriend once a month doesn't seem to cut it.
And, of course, the sermon yesterday was about living in unity and forming deep bonds with people in the church, and how we need that as the body of Christ.
It's hard to do! There aren't enough hours in the day! And it's not like I don't see my church friends—I have meetings and rehearsals. But there are ten or more of them there, and we're trying to get things done; not exactly a "quality time" sort of setting. So it doesn't get done, and my relationships stay fairly shallow.
How do you ensure that you build deep, lasting relationships with other followers of Christ? Any tips?
Lazy Christian Challenge: If I have to do it, why not you, too? Our church has been challenged to memorize Philippians 2:1-11. Let's all do it together!
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