Tuesday, January 17, 2012

A Short Play by Rachel: Great Expectations

A Short Play by Rachel

Great Expectations

Scene opens on RACHEL and FRIEND riding in RACHEL'S car. They are discussing raising RACHEL'S future daughter.

RACHEL:    I think that while they're growing up, I'll have my son open my daughter's car door for her when we get in the car. 

FRIEND:     Why?

RACHEL:     Well, I want my son to know how to treat a woman, and I want my daughter to know how a gentleman should treat her.

FRIEND:     Don't you think that's setting up unrealistic expectations for her?

RACHEL:     In what way?

FRIEND:     Well, not all men open car doors for women. That's not something she should expect.

RACHEL:     And why not? My husband opens the car door for me. If we teach our son to do it, there are probably other moms out there teaching their sons to do it. It's those little niceties that make all the difference sometimes.

FRIEND:     But maybe she won't meet one of those guys. Or date one. You're setting her up with unrealistic expectations.

RACHEL:     I don't think it's an unrealistic expectation. It's a high expectation. 

FRIEND:     Well, maybe it's too high.

RACHEL:     And why wouldn't I want my daughter to have high expectations? I want her to end up with a man who treats her the way my husband treats me—the way a man should treat a woman. I don't want her to settle for some schmuck who doesn't know how to treat her well. I wouldn't raise her to think she should only marry a rich man or someone who falls at her feet. But opening a car door for her? That's something small that says, "I care about you," every time she gets in the car. 

FRIEND:     Well. My husband doesn't do it for me.

RACHEL:     So you think I'm giving my daughter unrealistic expectations just because your husband doesn't open the car door for you?

FRIEND:     I—I guess.

RACHEL:     Well, he should open the door for you. It's not that hard. You tell him I said that.



  1. Love your short plays. Wouldn't it be funny if this happened in REAL LIFE!? *crickets chirping* ;o)

    I agree with you, btw. My hubby and I have talked about raising our girls with high expectations. I think if they believe they're worth it, they'll be more willing to save themselves and guard their hearts. :)

  2. LOL! My husband still opens the car door for me, carry my shopping bags, and pushes the grocery cart. Now to his list are all the diaper bags!

  3. totally agree with you :) high expectations are key. brandon always opens doors for me & i love it. it's the little things!

    1. Maybe it's a Brandon thing, since that's my husband's name, too! Wait---maybe you should describe your husband for me. Just to make sure it's not the same guy...

  4. Um, what you said. And tell your friend's husband I said so, too. {Another thing we are going to do is go on "dates" with our kids, to set the standard for how their dates should treat them and/or be treated.}

  5. I think high expectations are great, and raising your daughter according to the treatment you expect totally makes sense. The only thing I'd point out is that not everyone sees door opening in the same way. I'd rather see my husband approach me in an egalitarian fashion and am less into the chivalry-minded gestures. That said, I'm not anti-door holding or offended by it, but it's not something I see with the same appreciation (or the same necessity) as you do.

    1. I totally get that, and she may develop that sort of mindset when she gets older---it may not end up mattering to her as a specific gesture. But it still teaches her that a man should be thoughtful and kind when it comes to his wife, which I know yours is. Some women settle for men who aren't that way. My expectations were pretty low in the husband department, so sometimes I'm still shocked that the man I married is so kind and thoughtful. I don't want my kids to be shocked---I want them not to settle for less!


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